Taking the Reins to Live Intentionally and Simply

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When I was a little girl I dreamed about being a mother and a wife. I was like most little girls and clung to the role of mommy with my baby dolls. As I got older, I dreamt about my role as a wife one day too and started to crave that home full of feet running around and bacon frying on the weekends.

Modern day lifestyles are vastly different than the past decades. Our time in this world goes by quicker and our lives are filled with so much stuff, so many obligations and so much static and noise. Sometimes it can feel as if all of the noise takes us away from the simple joys of things like mothering, homemaking, front porch sittin’ and so on.

I know of so many people who say they’d love to live back in a simpler time, back in the good ole’ days. I tend to be one of those people sometimes as well too; but like so many others, I’m also grateful for so many modern day things.

Here’s the thing though. As I’ve grown as a mother and a homemaker over the past year, I’ve discovered such a joy for carving out an intentionally simple life for my family. Creating a simple, peaceful home and lifestyle doesn’t have to mean that we jump into a time machine and head back to the June Cleaver days, it just means that we take initiative of our lives and the speed of them.

Living Simply and Intentionally

We take control of our schedules, of the stuff accumulating around us and we find joy in the mundane. Something as simple as a crisp fall day with the windows open and a soup simmering on the stove is something to be joyful about. It’s something to stop and take in for a second. While the task of cleaning the home may seem so exhausting, it’s something to be grateful for. A home. And while for the homemaker or stay at home, cleaning may seem so exhausting and tedious - it’s our “work." It’s the home that you make for your family whether you work in it or away from it.

If we want our lives to slow down, it’s up to us to make it happen. It’s up to us to let go of obligations and to turn down some invitations. It’s up to us to do less of what we don’t enjoy so we can do more of what we do enjoy. It’s up to us as parents, as mothers and fathers, to determine how many nights a week we eat together as a family or how many Sunday mornings we sit in church together.

Weaving Christ throughout your life, throughout your day, your marriage and throughout your mothering, makes things more peaceful. That feeling of being together in church on Sunday where you’re meant to be, is the best. That moment of a Sunday nap or a Sunday on the front porch is where life can shine. Where you can feel the joy of His grace because you are resting and being intentional with those around you.

Living Intentionally

I’m all for the extra curricular and the date nights. I’m all for the trips to the zoo and the library and for the occasional night out on the town with your friends. But the key to creating a simple, peaceful life that you long for, is all found within your hands and the hands of the Lord above.

Don’t look at housework as a burden, it’s your way to serve those around you that you love. Involve your little ones in the tasks if you want and absolutely do the tasks together with your spouse if he’s the kind to chip in, but don’t relish on the burdens of it all when it’s part of what makes your life and the lives of those you love function so beautifully.

Find joy in your tasks, no matter how repetitive they may be. Pull out the mixer and bake something from scratch with your children. Take afternoon snacks to the porch or take the kids outside for star gazing at night before bed. And find time to steal those few minutes for just YOU. Find ways to do more of what you love no matter how hard that may be. And always, always find more time to be together to enjoy the simple moments.

Some things to consider to make your life and moments more intentional:

  • Eat meals together with no distractions as often as you can

  • Limit extra curricular to where you’re not on the go each night

  • Let kids be kids

  • Cook for your family, it’s rewarding for you!

  • Serve your family with a peaceful, joyful heart rather than with the burdens of having to “do it all”

  • Ask for help when you need it, because life sometimes requires it ;)

  • Find your grace in the messy moments

  • Remember that even the most perfect moms have bad days

  • Have a power clean hour

  • Pick your home up throughout the day or before you leave each time

  • Carve out a few minutes of the day for yourself (mine is the mornings and nap time)

  • Play outside as a family

  • If you’re a stay at home mom, limit your daytime errands and activities so you can be at peace within your home

  • Bake something

  • Color with your little ones

  • Take up gardening/plants! (seriously!)

  • Stop to find the beauty of your day and relish in that moment

  • If you work away from home, find the support you need to enjoy the moments that you have when you get home (also let go of any guilt you have for this - you’re an awesome mama!)

  • Limit your weekend activities and obligations - it’s okay to say NO

  • Read and pray over the Proverbs 31 woman - the noble wife

  • Pray (for real!)

Living Simply

Life is a story. It’s a steady picture reel going on day by day. It’s up to us to determine how to write that story and it’s up to us to determine how those pictures will look. It may not always look as planned sometimes and other times the paths of life may change and we won’t understand them as we experience heavy burdens and pains, but somehow we have the ability to continue on and to create a simple, peaceful life of joy through it all.

Don’t look at the reels of someone else’s life and wish yours looked like that - make it happen. Find your peace, your joy and your God. He’ll shine the light on your days and somehow, he may even slow down the time as it passes so you can linger in the beauty of his grace.

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Living Intentionally and Simply

The Secret To Motherhood

Copyright The Mushy Mommy 

Copyright The Mushy Mommy 

Oh I bet that title grabbed you in really good. You either clicked here in total desperation out of sheer exhaustion or you clicked here because you felt like there's just no way there's some magical secret to motherhood. 

Either way, no matter why you hopped on over, I will share a secret with you and I'm glad you're here. 

While this may not be the secret to motherhood, because let's get real here, such a thing doesn't really exist...it's still a good reminder. As I laid in bed last night and thought about life as a mother, a word that I have heard and used many times in regards to motherhood came to me. 


The secret to motherhood is grace. 

We live daily in the role as mother overcoming so much thrown our way (literally). Perhaps one of the biggest struggles we face as a mother is mom guilt. Mom guilt is huge no matter who you are. Even the most put together, Instagram worthy mama suffers from some sort of mom guilt. 

We stress and feel ashamed over some of the tiniest things sometimes. Our child doesn't have organic cookies like the other kid, we didn't read a book to the baby today, we're still in our pajamas, the laundry still isn't folded, baby books still need to be filled out, we splurged on take out for the third time this week and we still wonder most days if we're doing the right thing whether we work away from home, stay home or work at home. 

Then there's even more to contemplate over when our head hits the pillow at night. Did we show them enough love? Did we yell too much? Why did we let them get on our ever lasting nerve so quickly? Are they going to the right school? Did you do something to make your baby a bad sleeper? Why won't your kids sleep like everyone else's? What if they don't forgive you for being a butt hole today? Does your husband think you're a good mother? Does Jesus think you're a good mother? Or is he like, "girl you need to chill?" 

Our mind can become foggy as we navigate the ropes of it all, especially when we're exhausted. Sometimes we feel like we're sinking and other times we feel like we're on top of the world. Sometimes we feel proud and other times we compare ourselves and have our joy taken away right from under us because "she's doing it better." 

You see motherhood is a process, a journey, a task, a role, a job and so much more. It's a blessing beyond measure and with each blessing in life you'll find grace. Where you find that grace depends on you. When you find that grace depends on you as well. We can only ever do so much and worry so much as mothers. We can only fit so much into the mere 24 hours a day that we are given and we can only squeeze so much into the eighteen years we're blessed with. And our mess-ups can never top the triumphs. Period. 

So when your day is hard, when the tears start to sting, when the yelling is too loud and when your chest feels tight because you just don't know which way to turn...find your grace. Find your grace from within, find your grace from Him and give yourself the grace you deserve. And if faith isn't your thing, find yourself a pause. Take a second to realize that you're going to be okay and so will they. They may be eating take out and they may be going to bed too late tonight in dirty pajamas, but it's okay. They're going to bed fed and warm (maybe kinda smelly though), but totally loved. 

God isn't going to give you something you can't handle, he's just going to give you enough to make you need him. Stop, find your grace and GIVE YOURSELF GRACE. You deserve it, you deserve joy, and you deserve a pause with a little hope. Just when you think you can't go on, just when you think you're doing it all wrong and just when you think you've let everyone down, grace can slide right on in there. Sometimes it's in the form of a laugh, sometimes it's a hug or a crumpled up flower from today's school uniform that was picked just for you. You see there's grace all around, even when we're too distracted to notice it. 

You WILL make it through this and you'll one day realize just how beautifully and gracefully you did it. 

My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.
— 2 Corinthians 12:9
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Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos. 

To my Kindergartener

To my Kindergartener

When did you grow up little one? This all happened too fast. Here we are on the brinks of Kindergarten and all I can think about is how fast this all happened. I wasn't ready for this; no one really prepared me for it. 

People say so often, "It flies by so fast," but when you're in the brink of sleepless nights and never ending baby spit up, nothing seems to be going by too fast. In fact, at times I wished for you to grow up and overcome whatever hard stage we were in (like terrible twos) but here I am wishing you still had chubby baby cheeks and short curly hair. 

It seems just yesterday you were drinking from that cute little sippy cup that you used to throw everywhere. Now here you are telling me, "I can do it" when it comes to putting the straw in your juice box. Sometimes you do struggle with it and then you need me, and perhaps I secretly like that. 

It seems like not that long ago you were saying words all cute and funny and I thought it was so adorable that I hardly corrected you. Gosh, I can't even remember some of those words now because you're so grown and that's all so far away. Now, you speak some days as if you're in junior high and I'm just sitting there with my mouth hanging open wondering when did I start raising a thirteen year old? 

You're beyond excited for school and my heart is thrilled that you are. I know this means new friends, new lessons, new challenges and a whole new norm for you. But what about our old norm? 

What about all of these years of you staying home with me and learning life lessons from me? What about the days of running through the sprinklers or playing at the park while the rest of the world was tucked away at a desk, will you remember those days? Will you remember all of the snacks eaten on the front porch and the days of lazy cuddles after nap time where we just snuggled and watched your favorite movies? I pray you do. 

My normal for so long has been you. You home, you here and you spending so much time with me. I provided your safety net and now someone else will (and that scares me). I buckled you up tightly and drove slowly, and now there's a big yellow bus awaiting you (and that scares me too). 

Here we are, on the brinks of having our normal forever changed. Alarms need to be set, bags need to be packed and this is the real deal. This isn't preschool where we can just go for a couple of hours and come home or skip just because. This is the real deal and my heart is having so many mixed emotions about it. But...I have to be strong for you, because you're so strong. 

As you go out there and create a new normal for yourself, as you make new friends and as you learn new lessons, I hope and pray that you carry the ones from our time together. I hope you always feel my love and my snuggles, even when we're apart. I hope you carry the kindness I've taught you and show it towards others. I pray you remember you're worth, your beauty, your joy and your love for yourself no matter what things are tossed your way. 

I hope that when you open your snack at school that you remember all of our moments of snacks on the porch or baking cookies at home; and I hope you share yours with others who need it. I hope that when you think of me, your heart fills with joy and that you shine that joy to others. 

So here's to you my sweet child, as you begin a new normal. Here's to us as WE begin this new normal together. Life is changing fast and the seasons and rhythms of motherhood and childhood change more than I think I am prepared for. But we will get through it day by day. 

So go my love, shine your joy to others and bring your kindness to the table. Carry my love in your heart and turn to the warmth of my snuggles when you need to; because I'll be right here ready for you and all of the new norms that life will present. I'm not going anywhere, it's just a new norm.