Why Moms Are So Tired

Toddler Life and Motherhood

Your kids go away for the weekend with awesome grandparents and you're left either alone or just with the baby. You envision days of sitting on the sofa and chillaxing, sleeping in and eating all the chocolate without having to hide it. But what do you do? You clean. 

You freaking decided to clean and reorganize everything under the sun. Why? Why in the world would you do such a thing when you have freedom? I'll tell you why; because it is 135 times easier to do those things without kids around. Heck it may even be a little fun for some.

But the bottom line, a mother's home is rarely tidy enough in her mind, therefore she works. 


Your baby finally starts sleeping through the night and you're over there doing one handed backflips in celebration. Okay, not really but if you could do that crap you totally would be because you are so excited to start sleeping again. 

But then he catches a cold. Game over. 


You're finally over the hump of Christmas time and your brain is about as fried as two eggs from all of the thought that went into each and every gift. The good Lord knows you decided on about 90-100% of the gifts (that's just not something husband's are into) and you made them perfect. You need a vacation from being such a bad a** Santa Claus. 

But then you realize Valentine's is right around the corner and you're back to square one of working on school treats and kid's Valentine's. At this point you kinda just want to shove Cupid's arrow up his ya know...

The Mushy Mommy Valentine's Day

You finally can see the bottom of the dirty clothes hamper. 

Said no mom ever. That was a joke obviously. 


Your child wakes up each and every night scared out of her mind. Night terrors are the worst and you're right there to make it better. Who needs sleep when little ones need Mama. It's our job to be not just mommy, but security. 

But who cares if I am tired or was dreaming about the whole cast of Magic Mike dancing at my birthday party. I have bedtime monsters to kick out and cuddles to give out. 


You finally tackle that list of to do things around the home. The house is clean and tidy and you're so proud of your work. Only to realize that it is the weekend and you can't just sit in your clean house. There's 4 birthday parties, 2 dinners, 1 visit with Jesus and a few other things left to do. 

It never ends, moms. It never ends. Dave Ramsey should have added a whole course on budgeting for the 842 gifts you will buy for people, mostly little booger diggers. Some are cute little booger diggers, some are family and some you really don't know who the hell they are, but your kid does so you're still obligated to get a gift. 

Old Home

You will be exhausted from answering the mounds and mounds of questions that your four year old will ask you. I'm pretty sure that four year olds should come with an encyclopedia so you can answer all of the random things they will ask. Mostly things that you learned back in the day but since you didn't really pay attention back then, you can't quite remember the answer. That's when you either A) pretend like you didn't hear them or B) politely say, "Baby why don't you ask your daddy. He can explain it better." Option B is a very frequent choice for me. 

But hey, they may ask more questions than your brain can handle but the good thing is that they are actually curious about how the world works. So as exhausting as it may be, I suppose we should be grateful. 


You will meal plan and cook wholesome meals for your family. Many of them will be met with faces of disgust, much of it won't get eaten and the baby will throw more of it on the floor than what goes in his mouth. You will clean the kitchen each and every meal.

But on occasion you'll go to bed and be like "screw the crumbs on the floor that I didn't sweep." And you'll pray that you won't wake up to random insects or animals eating them. 


You will drive and chauffeur. You will provide a taxi service, a cleaning service, a butt wiping service and you will be a stylist. You will be a hair dresser, an armpit scrubber, a doctor and a cheerleader. You will be a referee. You will fish Barbie out of the toilet and you will pick boogers out like a mad woman. You will be a teacher and a voice for Jesus. You will be a cuddle and a kiss and every bit of love that will make your children secure and grounded. 

You will be it all. 

Sure there will be help from amazing husbands, half decent - but also kinda lazy husbands, some grandmothers and occasional baby-sitters. There will be days where you'll slack terribly at it all and days where you'll rock it all. 

But the bottom line is, we are so tired because we are simply MOM. Mom is a title with many, many subtitles. It is the most precious title that comes with more perks than anything but with little pay really. Actually no paychecks here.  

Unless you count kisses and hugs as payment. If that's the case, consider me the richest woman alive. And the happiest. 

But also the sleepiest. Definitely the sleepiest. 

 

 

 

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Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos. 

To My Son On Valentine's Day

To My Son on Valentine's Day

It's Valentine's Day and truth be told, it is one of my favorite days. You see, mama loves a good excuse to shower people with love and receive love. The romance, the chocolates, the delicate moments all tucked into a joyful and loving day, it is right up my alley. 

You're young now so the day doesn't have much meaning to you; but as the years go by, the day will emerge into many different things. From exchanges of homemade cards and flowers to chocolates and superhero cards, the day will be filled with moments shared and gifts treasured. Their may even be a date, just you and I, where we walk hand in hand to grab pizza and talk about the mysteries of fourth grade.

There will be kisses galore, because truth be told, I can't deny your chubby cheeks. There will be endless cuddles because you smell like Heaven. And there will be so many I love you's because I could never, ever say it enough.

And I'll whisper in your ear, "You my dear, you are my forever Valentine." 

The years will go by and the moments that are so delicate and special may change over time. The moments that I'll forever hold deep into my heart may soon start to fade as just memories to treasure, as you trek through life and find your new Valentine. One year it may be a girl from homeroom and then one day it may be the girl of your dreams. 

You'll shower her with love and affection, I hope, and make her feel special. You'll take her on dates and try to create memories with her that may last a lifetime.  You'll occasionally ask for my assistance on gift ideas and you'll even tag me along with you to the jewelry store for my approval. 

And you'll tell her, "You my dear, you are my forever Valentine." 

I'll sit back and beam with pride at the love you show and the love you share. I'll hope that my unconditional love each and every day has shown you just how deep love flows. 

But what I'll always hope, is that you'll hold onto the memories of your first Valentine. I hope that you'll remember the stuffed puppy dogs and the crumpled flowers you picked for me at the school playground. I hope you'll remember the love that I exuded day after day for you, but especially on Valentine's Day.

I hope you'll remember how mama was the first girl you loved and for so long, the girl of your dreams. That mama was everything you needed for every booboo, every broken heart and every time you needed that push to get back up again. That mama wasn't just your mother but your number one supporter, your cheerleader and your defense. That for so long, mama was all you needed. 

One day I'll pass my forever Valentine title over to someone else. But today, today is not that day. Today I will hold you close, snuggle you in the crease of your neck and breathe in every sweet smell and I'll soak in every moment. I'll shower you with love every second of the day. I'll fly you around like Batman and I'll pounce through the pretend jungles with you.

I'll tuck you in at night and hold you close and pray over you so that one day, you will find that Valentine of yours (even if it seems hard to share you). That one day some woman that God made just for you, will be lucky enough to call you her forever Valentine. 

I know I am lucky. Because God sent me you. And You my dear, you are my forever Valentine. 

 

 

 

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Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos. 

Our Valentine's Mantle

Valentine's is one of my favorite holidays, even though my husband doesn't think that it is a real holiday. Blah. Blah. Blah...just give me all the chocolate covered strawberries okay? 

If you are like me, you love a good excuse to pull out some extra decor and have some fun. When it comes to holiday decor, I generally like to keep it simple and more to one area. Having a mantle now makes that easy to do and oh so fun! 

What I love about all of this is that it ALL cost me mere pennies really. Each item you see in our Valentine's decor comes from the dollar section at Target. That's right, I paid $3 each for that  wooden heart and cloth heart pictured below and maybe $5 for the banner last year. The cute wooden picture with the heart came from Kohl's and the "Be Mine" was purchased long ago! 

It's so easy to put together a simple but fun look for little money. Thanks to Target (and this isn't a sponsored post), you can get some adorable items! If you keep things simple with simple pieces, your look will be a classic. 

Hopefully this mantle gives you a little inspiration for your holiday looks! 

Hoping you have an amazing HOLLA-DAY of love! 

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Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos.