When Your Terrible Two Toddler is a Gremlin

Terrible Twos Toddlers

Terrible Twos. 

One of the most widely known phases of motherhood and child development. Or in a nutshell, hell year. Yes, colleges have hell week...toddlers have hell years (yes that was a joke for all of you sensitive people).  

But let's get real and all acknowledge the fact that terrible twos or threenager or whatever it is, IT REALLY EXISTS. Maybe not both of them for all parents, but chances are you're going to experience one of them, both of them or half of each. And if you deny any involvement in this we can't be friends. Period. 

The stages of motherhood go like this for the first four years:

  1. Oh my gosh I love you so much I'm afraid I'll eat you up. 
  2. Oh aren't you cute -- running around -- wait...drop the scissors. No stop pulling your sisters hair. Oh you said your first complete sentence!...wait get down from there NOW! I.SAID.NO.
  3. Kid, I am not tolerating that attitude, you do NOT tell me no. Oh you wanna do this right now? Leggo.
  4. You're so inquisitive -- but yes baby, for the 147th time I don't really know what lizards eat. And yes, I love you too. 

Terrible twos and the threenager have to be the MOST trying time for parents. Like for real, I don't care what anyone says about teenagers. Okay, maybe I do care...but just have some sympathy for me okay?

These little humans are the equivalent to a bi-polar gremlin sometimes. I mean one minute they are all "Mommy, I love you" and the next minute they are slapping you because you said they couldn't color on the sofa. I never know sometimes if getting my toddler down to bed requires armor and bribery or just the typical books and cuddles. 

Others say that these are the good years and that they just get harder as they get older, but all I can think about is that when they are older they can A) verbally communicate what their freaking problem is B) whine in their room instead of on my kitchen floor C) more than likely not throw objects at me or their siblings D) understand that I am not Burger King where everything is your way E) understand the difference from being upset to being a complete PSYCHOPATH and F) learn that stomping their feet gets you nowhere in life except maybe Lord of the Dance.

Okay, let me calm down. Whew. I got a little carried away. But that's what happens when you're dropping truth bombs on the daily, I guess. 

To be honest I don't even know where this article is going anymore because I've had to stop writing 74 times just to break up fights, but the blanket the "correct" way, move the pillow to her choice of position today (yesterday it was elsewhere) and listen to a two year old try to do everything under the sun to NOT go to bed. 

So to be honest, I'm exhausted. Exhausted from the battles. Exhausted from the dare devil stunts my two year old insists on and the ways in which she tries to show her independence. I get it kid. You're unable to communicate how you feel, process your emotions and you're just a curious body trying to figure out this great big world. I GET IT. But it is hard some days. *Translation: most days. 

(Tip: WINE).

BUT THEN...

Then they finally get some sleep. They are well rested and their bellies are full and they wake up and it's like a fresh start. They are the cutest, cuddliest and most precious human being to watch. From the way they rub their still sleepy eyes to the way they snuggle their face right into the curve of your neck, they are literally THE.CUTEST.AND.SWEETEST.THING.EVER. They learn new things, new words and proving to be more of a "big kid" each day. They even stop you in your tracks when they comfort a hurt sibling or tell you they love you (and your first thought is "oh she really does have a heart!" #guilty). 

You look at them and realize the sweet innocence of this little miracle you created and you still find the little features that makes them a "baby" even though you know they are growing up at lightening speed before your eyes. And then you just want to suck in each and every moment and never let it go. You want to remember the way they smell, the soft baby-like cheeks they still have and the little dimples in their squishy, little fingers. You imprint each moment, feature and highlight right then and there. 

And your heart beams with pride, joy, love and contentment. Motherhood is truly a gift from God. You love this little fire ball, fire breathing dragon, I mean firecracker with every fiber of your being. You embrace the things that make your toddler "unique." 

But then that sweet baby full of innocence and wonder loses her crap again and that's a wrap folks. Duty calls over here...so let me suit up in my armor and bid you adieu.  

Cheers to all of my gremlin moms!

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Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos. 

Fall Diffuser Blends

Fall Diffuser Blends.

One of my favorite things so far about fall is dropping some oils in the diffuser to create fall smells. I was never really a candle type of gal, but I did love a good holiday scented candle. I have been experimenting the last few weeks with several different yummy blends to help you create fall smells within your home. 

These oils are easy to grab and the good news is that most of them are SO super inexpensive. Like under $20 -- what what. 

Part of the fun with oils is to blend different scents together in the diffuser to create smells you enjoy. Obviously with Young Living essential oils that we use, there are many therapeutic benefits available. From emotional support to sleep support, mental clarity and so on. Oh and to um, cleanse and purify the air -- amazing! 

 But sometimes you are just focused on creating a certain smell within your home and if you're like me, you're all about the holiday scents right now. Did you know that burning a regular ole' candle for about an hour has the same harmful affects as smoking one cigarette? Mind blowing I know! (*soy candles and beeswax candles scented with oils are usually safe!) This is why it is a great time to get rid of the candles and begin a healthier journey!

And in case you're wondering, yes Plug ins and air fresheners are POISON. Toss those bad boys and stick with something natural. 

But I digress. 

Let's chat fall blends shall we? Pour some hot apple cider, grab a knit blanket and cozy up with these! 


"Fallish." 

5 Drops Thieves. 4 Drops Patchouli. 2 Drops Tangerine. 

Fall Diffuser Blends Young Living

"Autumn Spice."

5 Drops Nutmeg. 4 Drops Orange. 3 Drops Cinnamon Bark. 

Fall Diffuser Blends Essential Oils

"Harvest Zest."

5 Drops Thieves. 4 Drops Orange.  

Fall Holiday Scents Essential Oils

"Autumn Pie."

5 Drops Cinnamon Bark. 4 Drops Nutmeg. 

Cinnamon Fall Blends Essential Oils

"Cider Spice."

5 Drops Nutmeg.  3 Drops Cinnamon Bark. 1 Drop Patchouli. 

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Mix them up and find your own favorite fall scents! Add the drops you wish to, my measurements are just recommendations. 

Look forward to this post continually growing as we discover new yummy, fall scents.

Happy Fall Y'all! 

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Motherhood and God's Glory

Each day is beautiful and worthy of so much thankfulness. But never forget the ones that take your breath away...
— Sasha, The Mushy Mommy
Motherhood and God

I remember it like it was yesterday. 

It was a few months ago and we went to church one Sunday morning. Our third baby was only a couple months old and our two year old was for once being decently calm in church and my four year old was sitting looking as adorable as ever. And there right beside me was my husband, helping me balance it all. 

He didn't know it but I had to hold it together throughout the whole mass. Tears on the brim of flowing for days and days at the complete and utter joy I saw before me. 

You spend your life as a girl dreaming about the day you're a wife or a mommy. The day your prince sweeps you off of your feet and the day that your child will call you "Mommy" for the first time. You smile at the idea of things like Christmas morning, family vacations, movie nights and t-ball games. 

You get married and begin to have kids. And life gets crazy. Complete and utter chaos if we're being accurate. Your marriage has less "alone" time and your date nights are rushed because the baby came down with fever while you were out. You shuffle kids back and forth and you have to remember just to pee sometimes. 

Motherhood and Jesus

You have less "me" time because let's face it, motherhood and alone time doesn't exactly go together. Bathroom trips consist of you and little feet - sometimes many - that follow you and watch your every move. Car trips consist of a game of 131 questions when really you just want to jam out to T-Swift's new song. And dinners go from gourmet meals with one child to whatever you have the time (or energy) to whip up with three kids while daddy is working all day. 

Sometimes you realize that motherhood comes with it's toll. You can lose sight of yourself, you can lose control of your appearance and you can run on little sleep. It's not always the rainbows and butterflies that you dreamed of. And sometimes, you do just need a good cry. 

But then there's those moments, the ones that choke you up and take your breath away. Where you're sitting and looking at the tiny humans you created, with the person you love, and you realize just how picture perfect life is. And although things really aren't perfect, you still can't help but feel so much love and joy that you have absolutely no idea how to handle it. It's literally the best thing in the world. Your children's love and your love for them -- there is nothing quite like it. 

And in the midst of that joy and love, there's fear. Fear for the unknown and the what ifs. Fear for the things that we can't control and fear for the what could be in the days ahead. There's a new fear with every headline we read; and sometimes we are just holding our breath waiting. And just like the love and joy that you almost don't know how to handle, you sometimes can't handle the fear either. 

So when you're sitting there in church, or at dinner or even just at the park, and you're all choked up thinking about the amount of love your heart has- or perhaps thinking about the unknown what ifs that could break your heart, just do one thing...

Give it to God. 

 Thank him for this over abundance of love and joy. Thank him for allowing you to wear the greatest "hat" of them all no matter how hard and long the days may be. Thank him for the ability to hear those words "mama" and to feel the pull of little arms around your neck. Thank him for the little feet that follow you everywhere and even for the 131 questions - because 131 questions are better than none. Thank him for someone to walk the journey with in the midst of the chaos. 

Give your fears to him too. Give your lack of patience to him and ask for more. Give your lack of wisdom in this season of mothering and ask for more. Ask for more grace. Ask for more faith when the world around you seems to be crumbling in the headlines. Just give it all to him. 

I'll forever remember that day. That Sunday where I beamed with joy at the love I felt in my heart and where I put aside the sleepless nights, the chaos and the tantrums and gave all the Glory to God. Because after what he has done for me, he surely deserves it. 

Each day is beautiful and worthy of so much thankfulness. But never forget the ones that take your breath away, the ones that choke you up and the ones that imprint on your heart for forever. Because one day, you're going to want to remember just how that felt. 

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Sasha Savoy

Sasha is the owner and founder of The Mushy Mommy, a natural mother and baby boutique and The Mushy Mommy Village. She is a SAHM who works hard at living as minimal and unprocessed as possible, but never claims perfection. Her mission is to inspire, encourage, enlighten and empower mothers all over to feel good about their choices, to make healthy choices and to enjoy motherhood and all of its beauty and chaos.